Elliott and I have worked together for more than 6 years. For much of that time we were in the Reno office on opposite sides of the building. Even in Pleasanton I could say there was a wall between us, so it wasn’t like we saw each other all day long. For the past 2 years though there has been no wall. People have often questioned us as to how or why we do it and some couples understand more than others. The truth is, that is all we have known. We met working together on a school project, we basically lived together for most of our relationship, and we have always had a relationship very much based on us, not our separate time or things. We share soap, a laundry basket, most of our food choices, a car, a tooth brush (well we have our own heads that attach to the same base), and deodorant, I am just not sure if that is “normal” but it works for us.
Monday we will start a new chapter. Elliott is going off to work and I will stay at home to work on our soon to be my business and eventually have and raise a baby. I may or may not use daycare on at least a few days a week so that I have some dedicated time to work, I really have no idea what my life will look like after our baby arrives and I am ok with that, I think. I also remind myself that if I want or need to I could also work full time, who knows, we have lots of options.
I am working to start processing my thoughts about this change in our personal lives. I am excited by the idea of Elliott coming home and us talking about our day with each other. I am interested in what it will be like for us to have so many more separate experiences and I only hope that it brings us closer together. I am interested to see what it will be like to have weekends, when so much of our week has resembles part of a typical weekend, laundry, cleaning, big cooking events, shopping, etc. With all those things to look forward to and wonder about, I am sad to lose my sidekick. We have spent so much time together in the past two years that it will be a big change for us to spend more than 8 of our waking hours apart. Afternoon walks with the dog will be just me and Shiloh, although some days or at least one day I hope we can lunch with dad in the park. I believe that this change will be good, and I know that it takes being uncomfortable or a little scared in order to experience growth. For now we are enjoying our weekend, and so far it has been a true weekend, filled with errands and soon time with friends, which is how we want to spend our free time. We will get Shiloh some exercise, us some sunshine, and some time to catch up with friends, and Monday, next week and next month we will see what this exciting change brings to our lives and we will work to enjoy the journey.
